I ve never had internet sex there must be another word for it, cybersex, obviously, but I m thinkingalong the lines of keyboard sex All the same, a couple of years ago and purely as a community service, you understand I started working on a series of words that could be typed using only the left hand It was another of those projects that I started and fairly quickly lost interest in If this book is about anything I think it would be fair to say that it is about the absurdity of sex I ve never had internet sex there must be another word for it, cybersex, obviously, but I m thinkingalong the lines of keyboard sex All the same, a couple of years ago and purely as a community service, you understand I started working on a series of words that could be typed using only the left hand It was another of those projects that I started and fairly quickly lost interest in If this book is about anything I think it would be fair to say that it is about the absurdity of sex This is the second of Roach s books I ve read lately and I must say sex is much funnier than death This book was laugh out loud funny.I have also discovered that I have a special face that I wear whenever the words URETHRA and EXPANDED or INSERTED are used in the same sentence This is especially the case when the word TOOTHBRUSH is also contained in that sentence but it is not reserved for the collocation of those particular words In fact, by the end of the book whenever the word URETHRA was used at all I could feel my face responding in a particularly pronounced Pavlovian fashion There were so many interesting bits to this book that it is pointless me starting or I simply won t be able to stop And it was funny and fun so I am going to recommend it and recommend it highly.The bit I found most interesting was right at the end, where she was talking about tests that were done in the 1970s that found that the people who enjoyed sex the most were homosexual couples either gay or lesbian This was because the heterosexual couples tended to see sex as a destination they needed to reach as quickly as they could, while the homosexual couples playedand teased and delighted in each otherFor some reason we seem to have become sold on the sex as performance metaphor At one point she said that many women felt sexually inadequate because they believed themselves to be unattractive and spent the whole time worrying about what they looked like watching themselves in effect Sex is about being there with someone else, and is better thethere you are it is a dance, rather than a race or a beauty contest.Now, this is the second time recently that I ve discovered just how incurious I am and have always been The first time was with Mr Fry s autobiography when he was talking about boys sticking their fingers up their bums That simply never occurred to me when I was growing up And to be honest, you could leave me alone in a room for a thousand years and I would never think of having sex with a vacuum cleaner I am assuming that is not what Billy Bragg means when he has a female character in one of his songs say, no amount of poetry will mend this broken heart, but you can push the Hoover round if you want to make a start.So, what did I learn Well, besides that gays make the best lovers, that it is best not to rush into a room when you hear a man calling out Titan, Titan, Titan on a video your wife is watching and if God has a place it certainly isn t in the bedroom, I think that the best of this book like Stiff is acknowledging that life, death and sex are all a bit absurd and for that we really should be very grateful I really wanted to like Bonk Mary Roach seems joyous in her celebration of the science of sex It s clear she s spent and thoroughly enjoyed her time researching the subject, unfortunately the book never really comes together Mary Roach s signature wit comes ofas juvenile as she seems lost in her perspective on her subject Is Bonk a personal essay about her journey through the world of sex research A portrait of the history of sex and the science surrounding it Roach never settles I really wanted to like Bonk Mary Roach seems joyous in her celebration of the science of sex It s clear she s spent and thoroughly enjoyed her time researching the subject, unfortunately the book never really comes together Mary Roach s signature wit comes ofas juvenile as she seems lost in her perspective on her subject Is Bonk a personal essay about her journey through the world of sex research A portrait of the history of sex and the science surrounding it Roach never settles in with a clear perspective on her subject and ends up getting lost in the telling.I m not a huge fan of footnotes, I respect when they are used well but despise when they are used as long tangents for a broken narrative In Bonk Roach uses long footnotes on almost every other page and uses them to add witty commentary to some of her points Most of the footnotes should have been integrated into the main text as they often feel orphaned from it.The most telling chapter of this book is when Roach goes to Cairo to get insight into sex research in Egypt Her trip, the results and the chapter are a complete let down and yet Roach tries to salvage it at the end with a chest thumping cry of how important people dedicating their lives to sexual discourse are It s at this point you can see that Roach is rounding third in her book and realizes she doesn t have the goods to bring it all home It s a real shame This book could and should have been better Mary Roach is a fine writer, an obvious research nut and the subject is one that is anything but unengaging Unfortunately it s yet another book where the editor let the author run free Some real hard nosed editing, some real focus, a re arrangement of the footnotes and a clarity of perspective and you ve got a fine book But what s in this pages isn t worth picking this book up in hardcover It s really a casual mass market paperback read or even a used one at that This book review has received a strong R rating for disturbing sexual content If you are eating, you might not wanna read this review right now DON T go into this book thinking it ll get you in the mood In fact, it may disturb the mood right out of you.Did you know Before Viagra, guys who couldn t maintain a good stiffy would often have stilts of some sort inserted inside of their penis skin, and they would essentially wander through life with a half boner that never went away so they co This book review has received a strong R rating for disturbing sexual content If you are eating, you might not wanna read this review right now DON T go into this book thinking it ll get you in the mood In fact, it may disturb the mood right out of you.Did you know Before Viagra, guys who couldn t maintain a good stiffy would often have stilts of some sort inserted inside of their penis skin, and they would essentially wander through life with a half boner that never went away so they could still bonk Special pants were designed to make this perpetual half mast issue less obvious.Also, apparently a lot of guys are turned on by putting stuff inside the skin of their penises To me, this sounds like exactly the LAST thing I would EVER want to do For those of you without a penis, let me remind you, tis quite sensitive Picture putting a bicycle in your mouth I expect that would be about as painful as putting a gerbil up your I did mention gerbils are popular for this, right ALSO, congratulations to homosexuals In several studies, it has been suggested that homosexuals tend to be much less inhibited during sex They tend to take their time about it much , to spendtime with foreplay, and to communicateactively with their mates during bonk Apparently, heteros have a tendency to just git er done, then go back to watching TV Because humans tend to be prudish, for many a year, all studies of sexuality were done by watching other animals doing the bonk Unfortunately, this is a very ineffective way of studying HUMAN sexuality, since pigs and monkeys tend to orgasm in a matter of seconds and not derive a lot of enjoyment out of it Also, do you know about electrical dick machines Well, now you do You can buy a kit to build your own machine that serves the purpose of making a plastic cock gyrate Check out the latest issue of Boy s Life, they always encourage the buying and building of random shit I can t tell you how many times I tried to convince my parents to let me buy a kit to build a hovercraft, but they always asked, What are you going to do with a hovercraft And I would inevitably respond with, I don t KNOW, but hovercrafts are awesome Similarly, electric dick machines are awesome AND, perhaps this is the most important and encouraging fact of all SHORTER WOMEN in general ORGASM BETTER AND MORE OFTEN There is science to back this up, and I don t remember the details, but I do remember the rule of thumb the distance between belly button and vagina is a good indication of the clitoris s location The shorter this distance, theconveniently placed the clitoris, and theaction it will receive during bonk This was quite entertaining, and I learned a lot some of which I didn t want to know That said, I didn t find this one as entertaining as Stiff Bonk is similar in a lot of ways, taking the same humorous approach to the topic, and focusing on the bizarre and fascinating If you feel like reading something that s light, fun, and able to make your genitals suck up into your body with fear, give this book a go 3.5 stars.This was like cup of cocoa sex Sex is always good but sometimes you can t help hoping it will be over soon and you can have a cup of cocoa, maybe with cream Marshmallows even Maybe a sprinkle of cinnamom and some grated chocolate curls Oh there I go, mind drifted off.Read 13 Dec 2013 and forgotten about until now Now what was it reminded me Friday night Hopeful And if not there is always cocoa. In Bonk, the best selling author of Stiff turns her outrageous curiosity and insight on the most alluring scientific subject of all sex Can a person think herself to orgasm Why doesn t Viagra help women or, for that matter, pandas Can a dead man get an erection Is vaginal orgasm a myth Mary Roach shows us how and why sexual arousal and orgasm two of the most complex, delightful, and amazing scientific phenomena on earth can be so hard to achieve and what science is doing to make the bedroom a satisfying place Mary Roach is always on her game She is funny, and her subjects are all so interesting The narrator of this audiobook was also on point But while I enjoyed this book, I think my 3 star rating is mostly my own fault.Because I apparently already knew all the freaky weird details about sex like almost all of them covered in this book In this case, I guess my love of sexual oddities and all things weird conspired against me because parts of this book felt, dare I say it, boring I still love Mary Roach is always on her game She is funny, and her subjects are all so interesting The narrator of this audiobook was also on point But while I enjoyed this book, I think my 3 star rating is mostly my own fault.Because I apparently already knew all the freaky weird details about sex like almost all of them covered in this book In this case, I guess my love of sexual oddities and all things weird conspired against me because parts of this book felt, dare I say it, boring I still love you, Mary Roach, and I ll be listening to Stiff The Curious Lives of Human Cadavers very soon i audiobook d this, the third feature length scientific expedition of mary roach i love love love mary roach i have bought multiple copies of her first book, stiff, and have managed to permanently lend every one of them out audiobooking the curious couplings of science and sex, however, was a very strange experience picture this i am walking around downtown pittsburgh, just like every morning, and there are strangers passing me left and right with serious or sleepy looks, briefcases an i audiobook d this, the third feature length scientific expedition of mary roach i love love love mary roach i have bought multiple copies of her first book, stiff, and have managed to permanently lend every one of them out audiobooking the curious couplings of science and sex, however, was a very strange experience picture this i am walking around downtown pittsburgh, just like every morning, and there are strangers passing me left and right with serious or sleepy looks, briefcases and plastic bags, and i am listening to a chapter on Lady Boners i m stuck in traffic, the way i most despise spending my time, and learning about the erotic rituals of artificial insemination of pigs in norway very strange if you re looking for a forthright and humorous scientific break down of erotic encounters, the clit, the g spot, the erection well, this may not be the book for you roach focuses her special, special attentions on the sex researchers that have changed the landscapes of our bodies and our bedrooms quick, tell me, which sexologist used his research as an outlet for his attraction to men whatever happened to the dildo cams constructed decades ago for sex research of vaginal arousal what do you know about the discovery of the g spot have you ever read a graphic description of the surgeries performed to provide erections for men with erectile dysfunction what do you know about the distance between the clitoris and the vaginal opening, and the orgasmic capacity therein interested to find out which sex researchers had to perform their studies under the cover of nightfall read BONK roach explores the ways that funding moves or not through research facilities, the stigma and social implications of being involved in sex research, and the feelings of grown up children of researchers we visit the institutions that are supportive and not roach pieces together the changing times and cultural notions of sex, and how our perception of sex restricts or facilitates collection of data and ability to publish she produces a clear picture of the historical variance in our cultural acceptance of sex research basically, the book is a lot of the grimy politicking that happens when people are jostling for funds and the neighbors might not approve of your research it s an entertaining ride through the scientific research industry along the way, i learned that sex researchers are both flawed and fascinating, and have both the purest and most dubious intentions and methods and some of them actually seem likable cindy mestin, for example of course, we learn the most from the exceptional cases, and roach brings enough material from the margins to make your head or sphincter spin i appreciated her examinations of the roles that prostitutes played, especially in the early days of sex research i loved the tales of wild sexual encounters in a rented attic for the sake of science i loved that mary roach talked her husband into having sex with her in a lab for the sake of science i am not sure that i could talk my spouse into that, even for the sake of science i was enthralled by the last chapter s mention of the scientific proof of better sex between gay couples than straight couples i m biased, i guess, but i agree One of my favorite parts in Fifty Shades of Grey by which I mean, one of the parts that gave me the greatest WTF glee is the part where Ana, still a virgin, is watching Christian Grey become aroused and is wondering how it s going to fit, and he says to her, Don t worry You expand too My first reaction SexayMy second reaction sadness for the fact that for whatever reason, there are other girls and women who also lack the knowledge of basic sexual biology because, as I lamented in my One of my favorite parts in Fifty Shades of Grey by which I mean, one of the parts that gave me the greatest WTF glee is the part where Ana, still a virgin, is watching Christian Grey become aroused and is wondering how it s going to fit, and he says to her, Don t worry You expand too My first reaction SexayMy second reaction sadness for the fact that for whatever reason, there are other girls and women who also lack the knowledge of basic sexual biology because, as I lamented in my review of Fifty Shades, the subject is so laced with shame.This book is a littlethan basic It s Intermediate Sex Ed, for people who know the names of parts and how they work and certainly that they fit , but doesn t know the exact mechanics of that working, perhaps Mary Roach teaches us these things in great detail For example, what layperson knows that vaginal fluid is plasma secreted through the vaginal walls, its source being the blood that rushes to fill the walls during arousal I mean, maybe you reasoned that out, but nowhere in high school sex ed do they say here is what makes up vaginal fluid, you know Who knew that people could think themselves to orgasm, that orgasms can temporarily relieve the spasms and pains of neurological disorder That quadriplegic and paraplegic persons who are capable of having orgasms 40 50% of them may feel it not just in their heads and genitals, as those who are not quadriplegic or paraplegic do, but potentially in their chests, arms, shoulders too Who knew that women experience involuntary symptoms of arousal while watching any sort of sex homosexual, heterosexual, even sex between animals but men generally are only aroused by the type s of sex they re oriented towards So much for that oh so feminine insult of frigidity.There s also a delightful human element to the book The fact that the woman who volunteered to publicly demonstrate a sex machine at a convention is in her sixties and wearing bookish glasses Roach and her husband in hospital gowns, doing it whilst having their genital responses imaged, for science The accusation of one of Kinsey s biographers that there was a perverse gleam in his eyes as he hovered his face inches away from a copulating couple also FOR SCIENCE I guess my complaint would be that there s not enough of that human connection to the genitalia detailed in the book Not enough of the human connection and communication that as Roach concludes in the final chapter, to the surprise of no one enhances our sexual experiences I mean, it s kind of good to get to a point where you ve read the word clitoris so many times it seems as dirty as reading a symbolic logic textbook But that effect also makes the book about as exciting as symbolic logic at points, so I didn t think she could write a better book than Stiff The Curious Lives of Human Cadavers, but I was wrong Bonk is fantastic I read it because I love Roach s style, especially on tough subjects I m over 50, grew up on a farm, had an active sexual life before after I got married almost 30 years ago have raised 3 kids to adulthood I m a sysadmin there isn t much I haven t seen on the Internet So, how much new material could there be Plenty, but that wasn t what shocked me There w I didn t think she could write a better book than Stiff The Curious Lives of Human Cadavers, but I was wrong Bonk is fantastic I read it because I love Roach s style, especially on tough subjects I m over 50, grew up on a farm, had an active sexual life before after I got married almost 30 years ago have raised 3 kids to adulthood I m a sysadmin there isn t much I haven t seen on the Internet So, how much new material could there be Plenty, but that wasn t what shocked me There was very little shocking material Roach kept the book very much in the realm of science with just enough humor to make it flow keep it interesting No, what shocked me was our lack of knowledge in this area.Sex is one of the most important parts of our lives I would have thought some one or some study would have all the answers We ve split the atom, but we don t really understand an orgasm What s up with that Well, sex is a taboo subject Even after the 60 s Yup I thought we d come a long way since the Victorian 50 s era repression, but apparently not President Clinton the man with the wandering cigar actually fired his surgeon general for suggesting that teaching masturbation might help with the AIDs epidemic Government money review committees make sex studies a very tough sell It s also very difficult to find people willing to be studied even harder to take many measurements Roach really went all out to write this book She literally traveled the world from Danish pig farms to a private Egyptian clinic, all over the U.S to the far east even participated in some studies She even talked her husband into helping Dear, how would you like a free trip to London There s only one little catch And then she wrote a fantastically in depth book about it with just the right touch of humor.I highly recommend it to everyone I don t think there is a person on the planet that couldn t learn a lot from this book, even if it is just some of the difficulties the scientific method faces when it runs into our prejudices My first book was about human cadavers, and as a result, people assumed that I m obsessed with death Now that I have written a book about both sex and death, God only knows what the word on the street is I have both books by Mary Roach, but I decided to start with the second I don t know what that says about me, but I would rather learnabout sex than about cadavers For nowIt s not surprising that the study of sexual physiology, with a few notable exceptions, did not get rolling in e My first book was about human cadavers, and as a result, people assumed that I m obsessed with death Now that I have written a book about both sex and death, God only knows what the word on the street is I have both books by Mary Roach, but I decided to start with the second I don t know what that says about me, but I would rather learnabout sex than about cadavers For nowIt s not surprising that the study of sexual physiology, with a few notable exceptions, did not get rolling in earnest until the 1970s William Masters and Virginia Johnson said of their field in the late 1950s, science and scientist continue to be governed by fear fear of public opinion, fear of religious intolerance, fear of political pressure, and, above all, fear of bigotry and prejudice as much within as without the professional world And then they said, Oh, what the hell, and built a penis camera Mary Roach is an excellent researcher of available scientific articles, followed by interviews and even direct experimentation But I think the main reason of her success is her very healthy and very sharp sense of humour Laughter and an awareness of the ridiculous are probably the best tools to fight ignorance, bigotry and prejudice Natural curiosity will take you that extra step further towards understanding and mastering the subject of today s lesson.Of course, it helps to have a guide who can sift through the tedious and the unnecessary lengthy dry study raw data in order to pick up the most scandalously funny bits of trivia available For example, one chapter is called The Upsuck Chronicles Does Orgasm Boost Fertility, and What Do Pigs Know About It I was waiting after that title for a caveat, and sure enough it comes a few pages after describing in detail how workers at a fertility farm for sows increase productivity by fondling their chargesWhile it is often true that people are pigs, it is never the case that pigs are people And here is the second reason I rate the book so highly Mary Roach may be skillful at finding the funny angle of research, but she is also serious about the project, and a truly gifted educator who doesthan simply making money out of popular science I know mostly my own corner of the woods, but I can confirm that sex ed is still a thorny subject for teenagers and mature readers alike Church and politicians still treat the subject as tabu, and the easy access of porn on the internet has its own drawbacks in establishing fake theories We really need a guide to separate for us the true scientists from the quacks and snake oil sellers that prey on the easily gullible Every Sunday, a dozen orsomber men arrived at Milford train station from points distant, to be processed for Brinkley s miracle four part operation to restore sexual vigor with goat glands.At one point, Brinkley was taking delivery on forty Toggenburgs a week, housed in a corral behind the hospital He encouraged his patients to personally select their donor, like diners at a Chinese seafood restaurant being ushered to the aquarium The study of human physiology is helpful for sure, and we should be grateful to the serious people who tested Viagra on pandas or dressed lab rats in polyester pants, so we can now all wear cotton underwear and improve or sperm count Even to those Canadian doctors who wrote an article on Sexual Intercourse as a Potential Treatment for Intractable Hiccups But at the end of the day, there will be two people in the privacy of their bedroom, and all the science in the world may be insufficient to take them to the highest peaks of satisfaction Because, as Mary Roach aptly observes, we are not animals, and pleasure has as much to do with the mind as with the body Throughout Human Sexual Response , the researchers encourage open and straightforward communication between partners It comes as no surprise that they moved on to sex therapy giving, not getting following the eleven year physiology project In conclusion, this was a fun and informative journey that makes me plan to readfrom this irreverent researcher Even about cadavers and stuffBit by bit, sex research has unraveled the hows, whys, whynots, and how betters of arousal and orgasm Thethe researchers and sexperts and the reporters talked about sex, the easier it became for everyone else to As communication eases and knowledge grows, inhibitions dissolve and confidence takes root